Continued from part one.
If you've completed the quiz in part one and still think a yandere's the perfect pet for you, you may be wondering, "Where do I find one?" If so, you've come to the right place. For many of the reasons listed in this three part post, you're far more likely to find yanderes online than in the real world. Low self-esteem plays a tremendous role in keeping people indoors and online, and yanderes are no exception. Also, by disassociating from their identity in the real world and creating an anonymous or semi-anonymous persona for themself, people feel more freedom to express their innermost feelings. While social etiquette might stop someone from making an offensive joke around their coworkers, a lack of consequences can compel them to do so on the internet, just as a yandere can feel free to behave however they want (within reason) over the same medium.
Three more reasons why yanderes are more likely to be found on the websites you visit than the street you live on are the added resources at their disposal, the ability to start over again if things go wrong, and because they're often shunned in the real world. Starting with the first reason: by using search engines like google and other tools, anyone - including yanderes - is able to look up information on the people they've taken an interest in, and what stalker doesn't want to learn more about their target? Moving on to the second: if a yandere botches things on the internet, they don't have to stress about it too much - instead, they can just make a new identity for themself in the same community they were a part of. In the real world, if their friends ever found out how obsessive or deranged they were, there would likely be no recovering from that, socially speaking.
And wrapping up the reasoning behind the third reason: as pointed out and explained in several posts before this one, such as the three part series linked earlier, yanderes don't always do a very good job of coping with everyday life outside the internet. In many cases, that's a factor in them becoming yanderes in the first place. So, when they have the option of being somewhere that makes them uncomfortable - the real world - or on the internet, where they can do virtually anything they want and have complete control over who interacts with them, for how long, and what methods those people use to interact with them - I.E. emails, instant messages, voice chats, video chats, etc. - it's easy to see why they, like so many other people, would choose the internet over interactions in person.
This is not to say that you won't find any yanderes walking the streets. You'll just have a much higher chance of success online. Now that we've firmly established that (without even going over many of the other reasons why this is true): where, specifically, should you look for a yandere on the internet? There are a few different, correct, general answers to this question, and the first is: anywhere that's crowded. Your facebooks, your twitters, your reddits. Any website which has anywhere from millions of users to over a billion users and allows them to contact one another, preferably - but not necessarily - over private messages. Real yanderes are incredibly uncommon creatures, and if you intend to find one somewhere in the depths of the internet, you'll need to cast a wide net.
Or will you? The second correct, general answer to where you should look for yanderes online is: anywhere that claims to have them. Right now, you can hop on google, search for "yandere community," and join one in under five minutes. From there, it's just a matter of getting to know people and figuring out if any of them are a yandere. This can relate to the first answer, in that you can search facebook's groups for a yandere group to join, reddit for a yandere subreddit to join, and so on. But I'll warn you in advance: once again, for reasons listed in this post and several others, fans of yanderes are underage, more often than not. Whether you're a teenager or an adult who's looking for a yandere, you should always inquire about the age of possible yanderes you speak with.
If you're a teen who has no problem with having another teenage yandere as a pet, there's still a major problem. As a minor, the odds of you being financially independent enough to support yourself and a yandere are beyond one in a million. For this significant reason alone, you should only consider adopting a pet yandere once you're an adult. Focusing on this task from the point of view of an adult seeking an adult yandere, you should be aware that by early adulthood - typically from ages 19 to 24, give or take a year or two - yanderes "grow out of it" for many reasons, not least of which is that they've lived long enough to enter into more romantic relationships and gained more confidence in their ability to have more of them in the future, without needing to be clingy.
In some cases, yanderes mellow out and become less obsessive in early adulthood due to puberty ending, and in other cases, by the time they become an adult or have lived the life of one for a few years, they've been hurt by enough people to stop feeling clingy toward the people they care about, or they finally stop caring about others. This is normal for those who grow to distrust people over time, since they think they'll only end up being hurt again. Yet another reason is that, by early adulthood, some yanderes think - and accept - that they won't be in a relationship for the rest of their lives. For the purposes of this discussion, whether they're right about that or not is irrelevant. What matters is how it impacts their outlook on relationships. I probably don't have to tell you that someone who sincerely thinks they'll never be in another relationship spends little or no time seeking one out, and is far from clingy or yandere.
In other words: for a large number of reasons (some of which haven't even been covered), being a yandere is just a phase for most teens and young adults. This is another good reason to only seek out an adult yandere. If you truly want one, then chances are that you want one for life, not a yandere who will cease to be one within a couple of years. With this in mind, let's look at a third correct answer to "where should I look for yanderes?" Anywhere that people are likely to write about themselves in detail. If someone points out on their profile that they're a little psychotic, clingy, or needy sometimes, then you may have stumbled across a yandere. For this reason, dating sites would be perfect, if not for their lack of yanderes. You can spend hours reading five hundred consecutive profiles without finding one. (And if you're desperate enough to actually do that: congratulations! You may be a yandere yourself.)
You may be surprised by how heavily cluttered dating sites are with seemingly ordinary people. From match.com to okcupid and every dating site in-between, yanderes are out there, but they're rare. But if you're willing to put in the time and effort to try finding one and keep the three bolded principles in mind when looking, then it will only be a matter of time until you succeed. You may even succeed just by going about your daily life and being lucky enough to meet one by chance, but why laze about in the hopes of that happening when it's so unlikely? You may as well bolster your odds of finding a yandere by being proactive about it. To recap where to find yanderes online:
1: Anywhere that's crowded.
2: Anywhere that claims to have them.
3: And anywhere that people are likely to write about themselves in detail.
And here's a brief list of some specific sites and communities you can consider checking out:
Any dating site. Search for words like "yandere," "clingy," or "needy" if the site you check has a search feature.
Any small yandere communities you find via google, such as forums that revolve around the discussion of yanderes.
Deviantart - search for the word "yandere" to find works of art with "yandere" in the title or description. If you notice that someone has drawn a great deal of yandere pictures instead of only one, you may be onto something. Otherwise, probably not.
Facebook - search for the word "yandere" to find yandere groups and people with "yandere" in their name.
Reddit - search for the word "yandere" to find yandere subreddits and submissions with "yandere" in their title.
Steam - search for the word "yandere" to find both yandere groups and individuals with the word "yandere" either in their name or elsewhere on their profile.
Tumblr - search for the word "yandere" and people with "yandere" in their URL.
Twitter - search for the word "yandere."
Know of another site I should add which has at least one million users? Let me know!
Continued in part three.
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